Never overdo it.
“One should speak their mind” is such unsolicited advice that it will ruin a person more than make them.
My advice: speak only when necessary, and you will feel so empowered and courageous that no other hack can ever make you feel like that. Speak something that helps others and not what you feel like speaking, whatever the motive behind your speech. Do not be brutally truthful. Keep mum.
In the process you will start thinking better and become more creative and productive.
It makes you relentless. It makes you adventurous. It encourages you to let go of your inhibitions, but you will likely not regret this 90% of the time.
People who want to back up speaking their mind and refute any other way of dealing with peers, such as people-pleasing, should understand that they have turned bitter due to their circumstances.
Most people are just nice. They do not want to please you, but they want to be beneficial. You cannot consider a person to be your pal if he is shouting on top of his voice to prove to everyone in the room that you are right, swearing at everybody else. This is not bold.
Because when someone gives him back, he will shout at you too and curse you for being wrong because he supported you wrongly.
Undeniably it is not bold to lose your decorum. It is cowardice.
“Most of our obstacles would melt away if, instead of cowering before them, we should make up our minds to walk boldly through them.” – Orison Swett Marden
Being bold means to thrive in situations where only you know you can make it, while others have given up on you.
One should not have a nervous breakdown each time life’s good things turn their back on you.
Bold people are resilient. They know they have to be bold in defending themselves and not offend others or themselves in the process.
Their defense is their perseverance and not going to each door, swearing and calling each person on the way a jackass, or proving that there is no one better than them that was ever born in the name of self-esteem.
A very fragile and decent fellow in the room can be the most bold person who is facing something like cancer but smiles away, not telling people how difficult it is to live with the fact that they are not going to live, and that is perfectly OK.
“Courage is being scared to death but saddling up anyway.” – Woody Allen
One might lose it on certain days, but their coping mechanisms do not invade other people’s territory; they cut down on their expenses, eat less, don’t attend parties, and stay grounded until it is convenient to manage their medical expenses and open up a bit to share about their condition in the surroundings.
Maybe we won’t become famous nor be wealthy, but living boldly to an extent will give you spiritual pleasure in surviving all odds. Such common men build nations. They do not have to be Mahatma Gandhi or Abraham Lincoln.
They can be meek followers of nonviolence or read the Bhagwad Geeta and hardly change anything in the world.
The difference that they make in their life is only to the extent of eating better food and living a decent life, with a few friends, raising responsible children, and not becoming reactive at the wrongdoings of the neighbor.
When they get bolder, their adventure includes innovating ideas and strategies for working better; they strategize to create a good living and thriving environment, for instance. And that is bold enough. You do not have to be a wrestling champion.
At the end of the day you want to snuggle up inside your quilt and enjoy the winter nights by getting a cozy sleep after working hard throughout the day.
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