Become channels of safety

This is the year where I choose to augment my self-control mechanisms despite outside influences

A very deeply thought-out stoic wisdom is about self-control. It does not correlate to self-sabotage; it is something different. You need to practice self-control in a manner that is natural to you and not forceful self-sabotage.

As an example, when we feel the fatigue after a long working day, our brain gives up, and we want to sleep tight. It is natural to sleep and rejuvenate. We don’t have to forcefully sleep to feel better; it is a natural inclination for a tired body. After relaxation, our brain restricts us from taking risks and persuades us to go slow with projects and cross-check so that the endeavor becomes successful.

Our body wants us safe, and so does our brain. Internally, we all are channels of safety. If someone hits you hard, it is a natural inclination to distance yourself from them.

This is the new year, and for the first time I was all alone and took the credit for it all to have been able to relax and enjoy it in my own company. My self-control was intact, and I greeted my family and friends and colleagues, but I wasn’t overwhelmed with the urge to celebrate.

Natural self-control is much easier. I have outgrown anxiety, and even though I feel out of place in some moments, I have adjusted to it. I don’t give room to my anxiety to develop. I prevent the panic of living alone.

I felt safe. I got out of the self-sabotage. I was in natural self-control.

I can double-check the situation and my perception of it more effectively because now the big picture is no longer necessary.

When my folks have all the inputs about their next course of action and have learned their lessons, which seems quite likely, even if they want to remain as morons, it is their call. I will save them according to my perception of the correction that is required, even if my idea seems obsolete, outdated, or not working for them.

It works for me like this. I don’t consider the old advice or ways as refutable; I blend it with the modern version of safety to create something better.

I am neither a young person nor a very old woman; at this moment I am a confluence of the young and the old. My experience has seen a drift in education, consumerism, employment rules, regulations for safe survival, and spiritual developments. I should also not overlook the digital drift.

I do not live adrift. I am a channel of safety for others whom I impact. Similarly, I consider some people helping me feel safe as channels that face me but clear it up for me as my spinal cord for now.

Even the envenoming enemies feed me as channels of safety. They prepare me for a greater degree of self-control that should be a natural ornament of good souls and not a forced effort that blasts at every interjection.

Become channels of safety both internally and externally. Do not create a panic for someone who doesn’t intend to harm you despite their harsh behavior because what they say and do is their coping mechanism with the outside world. You should be safe for them. And they should feel safe to you; if not, distance yourself so that you can control yourself in isolation, within your walls, and do as much as is necessary to not create trouble, and not at the cost of self-sabotage, but self-control.

Life may be long or short; I cannot predict, but with self-control you save yourself and others from bigger mistakes. You can speak up, but do so after correct perception about the need for it. In your exasperation, seek help, and before you begin your wrath, quickly practice self-control, listen to your hidden desire that freaks you out, and channel yourself inside towards your own safety.

It is not always possible for an emotionally or mentally labile person to practice self-control. If you feel more capable of handling such situations, then become channels of safety for them and do not aggravate their agony. Things would fall in place soon for them and you. If nothing can be done, endure and change or distance yourself from them, totally in control of your emotions and intelligent thinking.

Some overly intelligent people mess up; try to handle them with positive emotions, and some emotional fools need to be imparted some form of intelligence to not mess up their lives.

I do not depend upon destiny, luck, or curses; we are just energy and gravity at every moment of our lives, so if the equilibrium is challenged, things happen for good or bad.

Preserve your energy as naturally as possible through tremendous self-control in the most adverse situation also.

As Marcus Aurelius wrote:

“Be tolerant with others and strict with yourself.“